tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331434572979612041.post8599463396115540161..comments2023-09-23T21:33:31.080-07:00Comments on Sweet B: what is fair?CarleeKajsahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05703204293632684852noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331434572979612041.post-70380978965415295712009-10-13T20:57:56.027-07:002009-10-13T20:57:56.027-07:00I don't have two kids, so mine just gets every...I don't have two kids, so mine just gets everything he wants.<br /><br />But I do remember something my mom always (ALWAYS) used to say that may have some relevance... "Fair doesn't always mean equal"Paigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08106719655491837150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331434572979612041.post-52256460323441941982009-09-24T08:08:40.587-07:002009-09-24T08:08:40.587-07:00Mor Mor says that this is a classic problem and gi...Mor Mor says that this is a classic problem and gives you praise for trying to figure it out with logic as opposed to emotion and reaction. Personally, I think it is a problem that has no everytime solve and fairness is an event by event decision. Which...makes it very hard on the judge (you) because it is EVERY event that needs solving and that can wear you out fast. The problem that I have seen in the past is when you ALWAYS make the oldest child responsible for EVERY problem. The younger needs to know that he won't ALWAYS get what he wants just because he is younger. That breeds a selfishness as much as the older not sharing. That's why I like what Linsey said about letting the older child have some assigned space to enjoy his toys. Primarily...I think it is one of those issues that would be nice to have a solve once and for all so you didn't have to work so hard to solve it everytime it comes up. But alas, it is part of the "tending" that takes up so much energy when the kids are young. But so very important to try and solve because it becomes part of their value system later.Mor Morhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14009207000349202446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2331434572979612041.post-28160841669377974032009-09-23T21:25:45.184-07:002009-09-23T21:25:45.184-07:00That one is hard. I'm still trying all kinds o...That one is hard. I'm still trying all kinds of things. So far I just have two different types of play. There are times when I let Liam go and play in his room with door shut so he doesn't have to fight Henry and other times where they have to share the toys. Henry is at the age where he can get to anything anywhere anytime so that is why I let Liam shut the door, or else I wouldn't. Liam also has to help teach Henry how to play and share. Maybe Bryson could pick out "baby" toys of his to give Bodie since he (bryson) is a "big boy" now. And I hear you on the gun thing vs. lightsaber thing. Ummm, hello? A Jedi knight is to us his lightsaber for knowledge and defense, never for attack. ;) (i think).linseyhttp://www.applelikesorange.comnoreply@blogger.com